Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to—at best—three years
﷽ .... Life is a reflection of You ❤
Monday 2 July 2012
When love fades away ..
We are born to love. That feeling of elation that we call romantic love is deeply embedded in our brains. But can it last?
Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to—at best—three years
Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to—at best—three years
Friday 8 June 2012
The Simple Mantra for a Healther Life: Less Couch Time, More Fruit and Vegetables
It may not be the best, but it is the easiest heath goal for people to attain.
Get up off the couch and go buy some fruit and vegetables. According to a recently published study, that's the road to better health that's easiest for most people to take. A little financial incentive doesn't hurt either.
It's hardly news that Americans eat too much saturated fat, too little fruit and too few vegetables, sit too much and don't exercise nearly enough. But it would be news if someone found out to get them to change these habits for the better. And researchers at Northwestern University may have found the way.
The researchers looked at people with all four of these unhealthy habits who wanted to change them. And they tested which pair of behaviors--one dietary and one physical--was easiest for people to improve. The pairs were increase fruit/vegetables and sit less, increase fruit/vegetables and increase exercise, lower saturated fat and sit less, and lower saturated fat and increase exercise.
By far, people found it easier to decrease their couch time and increase their fruit and vegetable intake, making major changes within three weeks.
It might just be time to change the formula for better health from "eat less and exercise more" to "get up off the couch and start eating more fruit and vegetables."
Get up off the couch and go buy some fruit and vegetables. According to a recently published study, that's the road to better health that's easiest for most people to take. A little financial incentive doesn't hurt either.
It's hardly news that Americans eat too much saturated fat, too little fruit and too few vegetables, sit too much and don't exercise nearly enough. But it would be news if someone found out to get them to change these habits for the better. And researchers at Northwestern University may have found the way.
The researchers looked at people with all four of these unhealthy habits who wanted to change them. And they tested which pair of behaviors--one dietary and one physical--was easiest for people to improve. The pairs were increase fruit/vegetables and sit less, increase fruit/vegetables and increase exercise, lower saturated fat and sit less, and lower saturated fat and increase exercise.
By far, people found it easier to decrease their couch time and increase their fruit and vegetable intake, making major changes within three weeks.
It might just be time to change the formula for better health from "eat less and exercise more" to "get up off the couch and start eating more fruit and vegetables."
Friday 1 June 2012
Thursday 31 May 2012
Saturday 19 May 2012
Most often, heartbroken people are unknowingly grieving a loss or trauma rooted in childhood or adolescence. That's because we tend to fall in love with people who remind us of those who cared for us—even badly—when we were young and totally vulnerable. We become childlike when we feel securely adored, letting go of all inhibition. The failure of adult relationships is often caused by the dysfunctions we internalized as children, and the devastation we endure when we're rejected almost always opens ancient wounds, making us feel as bereft as an abandoned little kid.
If you ask yourself how old you feel when you're in the worst throes of heartbreak, you'll probably find that a surprisingly low number pops into your head. Whatever the age of your grieving inner child, it's your job to comfort her, as you would help a toddler or a teen who had lost a parent. Do small, practical, caring things for yourself: Listen to a song that helps you grieve, schedule a play date with your best friend, wrap a soft blanket around yourself and let the tears come. Most important of all, give your childish self the chance to talk. Open your journal or visit your therapist, and let yourself express your anger and anguish in all its irrational, immature glory.
As you do this, you will almost certainly find yourself grieving losses you suffered way back when, as well as the one you've just endured. This is good: It means that you are finally progressing beyond ways of thinking and acting that didn't work for you early in your life and still aren't working today. Acknowledging and comforting that younger self is absolutely essential to easing your pain, recovering from your wounds, and finding new sources of healthy love.
Study Question #2: What Did My Lost Love Help Me Believe About Myself?
Look back on the time when you were falling in love, and you'll realize that though much (or some) of your time with your lover was fabulous, the relationship made you happy even when the two of you were physically apart. The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. To graduate from Heartbreak Academy, you have to learn that neither your ex-beloved nor the fact of being in love invested you with these qualities. Your lover couldn't have seen them in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.
Make a list of all the things you let yourself believe when you saw yourself mirrored in loving eyes. Write them as facts: I'm fascinating. I'm beautiful. I'm funny. I'm important. Realize that you chose to believe these things in the context of your relationship, and now that the relationship is over, you have another choice: either to reject a loving view of yourself or to believe the truth.
But, you may say, what if these positive things aren't really true at all? What if the truth is that I'm hopelessly unlovable? Well, let me remind you that when you believe you're an insignificant bird dropping on the sooty gray pavement of life, you feel unspeakably horrible. On the other hand, when you opt for believing what love once taught you about yourself, the core of your despair is replaced by sweetness, however bitter your subsequent loss. I say, use what works. Self-concept is a self-fulfilling prophecy: When we let ourselves believe that we're wonderfully attractive, we act wonderfully attractive. By letting yourself believe the most loving things your ex ever said about you, you can get rid of the bathwater but keep the baby, honoring and preserving what was precious in your relationship, while letting go of the pain.
If you ask yourself how old you feel when you're in the worst throes of heartbreak, you'll probably find that a surprisingly low number pops into your head. Whatever the age of your grieving inner child, it's your job to comfort her, as you would help a toddler or a teen who had lost a parent. Do small, practical, caring things for yourself: Listen to a song that helps you grieve, schedule a play date with your best friend, wrap a soft blanket around yourself and let the tears come. Most important of all, give your childish self the chance to talk. Open your journal or visit your therapist, and let yourself express your anger and anguish in all its irrational, immature glory.
As you do this, you will almost certainly find yourself grieving losses you suffered way back when, as well as the one you've just endured. This is good: It means that you are finally progressing beyond ways of thinking and acting that didn't work for you early in your life and still aren't working today. Acknowledging and comforting that younger self is absolutely essential to easing your pain, recovering from your wounds, and finding new sources of healthy love.
Study Question #2: What Did My Lost Love Help Me Believe About Myself?
Look back on the time when you were falling in love, and you'll realize that though much (or some) of your time with your lover was fabulous, the relationship made you happy even when the two of you were physically apart. The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. To graduate from Heartbreak Academy, you have to learn that neither your ex-beloved nor the fact of being in love invested you with these qualities. Your lover couldn't have seen them in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.
Make a list of all the things you let yourself believe when you saw yourself mirrored in loving eyes. Write them as facts: I'm fascinating. I'm beautiful. I'm funny. I'm important. Realize that you chose to believe these things in the context of your relationship, and now that the relationship is over, you have another choice: either to reject a loving view of yourself or to believe the truth.
But, you may say, what if these positive things aren't really true at all? What if the truth is that I'm hopelessly unlovable? Well, let me remind you that when you believe you're an insignificant bird dropping on the sooty gray pavement of life, you feel unspeakably horrible. On the other hand, when you opt for believing what love once taught you about yourself, the core of your despair is replaced by sweetness, however bitter your subsequent loss. I say, use what works. Self-concept is a self-fulfilling prophecy: When we let ourselves believe that we're wonderfully attractive, we act wonderfully attractive. By letting yourself believe the most loving things your ex ever said about you, you can get rid of the bathwater but keep the baby, honoring and preserving what was precious in your relationship, while letting go of the pain.
Friday 18 May 2012
How to Love More by Caring Less
Loving without caring is a useful approach—I'd venture to say the best approach—in most relationships, especially families. If you think that's coldhearted, think again. It may be time you let yourself love more by caring less.
Real healing, real love comes from people who are both totally committed to helping—and able to emotionally detach.
Anger elicits anger, fear elicits fear, no matter how well meaning we may be.
Sanity begins the moment you admit you're powerless over other people. This is the moment you become mentally free to start trying new ideas, building new relationships, experimenting to see what situations feel better than the hopeless deadlock of depending on change from someone you can't control.
Real healing, real love comes from people who are both totally committed to helping—and able to emotionally detach.
Anger elicits anger, fear elicits fear, no matter how well meaning we may be.
Creating ways to be happy is your life's work, a challenge that won't end until you die. We'll come back to that in a minute. For now, the goal is just to try believing, or merely hoping, that even if all your loved ones remain toxically insane forever, it's still possible you'll find opportunities to thrive and joys to embrace.
Sanity begins the moment you admit you're powerless over other people. This is the moment you become mentally free to start trying new ideas, building new relationships, experimenting to see what situations feel better than the hopeless deadlock of depending on change from someone you can't control.
You can be happy either way, so what do you care? You have the freedom to live and let live, to love and let love. Granting yourself that freedom is one of the healthiest, most constructive things you can do for yourself and the people who matter to you. And if you disagree, I truly, respectfully, lovingly do not care.
How do you get your nearest and dearest to change their behavior? Simple: Stop giving a damn what they do, says Martha Beck.
Thursday 17 May 2012
Time to let Go
Ever been in this position? A lot of us have and it is a very difficult position to be in. It is hard to hold on to something that you know is weighing you down, and preventing you from living a healthy positive life, but at the same time it is hard to just let go of someone that you hold so dearly to your heart. There is no right or wrong answer to this equation presented in many of our lives, and everyone's situation though similar, is different and unique.
Try to remember why you are holding on to this person, are they encouraging and uplifting your life, or are you just holding on to this person because you are trying to remain loyal to promises that you made to them and to yourself. If you are holding on just because you are too loyal, too scared, or just too used to being with someone, know that you are a special person, and that yout deserve to be treated as such. Never let your circumstances hold you back from your dreams, and remember to make the best decision for yourself and your happiness, and no one elses's, we have to be a little selfish sometimes!
“Pain will leave you, when you let go”
― Jeremy Aldana
Try to remember why you are holding on to this person, are they encouraging and uplifting your life, or are you just holding on to this person because you are trying to remain loyal to promises that you made to them and to yourself. If you are holding on just because you are too loyal, too scared, or just too used to being with someone, know that you are a special person, and that yout deserve to be treated as such. Never let your circumstances hold you back from your dreams, and remember to make the best decision for yourself and your happiness, and no one elses's, we have to be a little selfish sometimes!
“Pain will leave you, when you let go”
― Jeremy Aldana
The Other Rules for Seeking Your Soul (and Its Mate)
I would encourage anyone who wants to find a soul mate to follow these three steps, which I call "The Other Rules."
1. Know Thyself.
Women who are willing to hide or detach from their real selves in order to bag a man often seem to believe that the right guy will give them a sense of identity and self-confidence. This is backward. Looking for love before developing a strong sense of self is like trying to find the mate of a shoe you've never seen.
Next time you're feeling fretfully single, try exploring your own nature: Write down your favorite foods or colors or songs or books or sports. Visit a therapist. Embark on a voyage of self-discovery for its own sake and because it is on that journey that you are likely to bump into the perfect traveling companion.
1. Know Thyself.
Women who are willing to hide or detach from their real selves in order to bag a man often seem to believe that the right guy will give them a sense of identity and self-confidence. This is backward. Looking for love before developing a strong sense of self is like trying to find the mate of a shoe you've never seen.
Next time you're feeling fretfully single, try exploring your own nature: Write down your favorite foods or colors or songs or books or sports. Visit a therapist. Embark on a voyage of self-discovery for its own sake and because it is on that journey that you are likely to bump into the perfect traveling companion.
2. Value Thyself.
The single women I know are frequently advised, "Stop being so picky," "Have a better attitude," and "Lower your standards," perhaps to the point where they'll date anyone with a penis and a pulse. I believe this is precisely the wrong approach. Why? Consider our statistical friend, the bell curve. The great bulge in the middle represents areas where you are, well, average. This is also the part of you that could easily be mixed and matched with the largest number of potential mates. The skinnier upper end represents your greatest gifts, the areas where you are most talented and extraordinary. The few people who share your most exceptional characteristics are your tribe, the population that is most likely to contain your heart's partner.
I suggest that you should be pickier, less accepting and more committed to the "bad attitude" that will make you seek people who are extraordinary in the same way you are. Be courteous to men who don't appeal to you, but for God's sake, don't waste your evenings—let alone your nights—with them. "Oh," conventional rule-keepers might exclaim, "you'll have to spend some nights alone!" Yes, indeed. Your pool of candidates is much smaller at the high-quality end of the bell curve, your chances of having no date on Saturday much larger if you refuse to go out with men who bore or repulse you. But if memory serves, the boredom and/or repulsion of bad dating is much worse than spending a few hours on your own.
3. Engage Thyself.
The authors of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right emphasize that in order to get a guy, a woman should always act busy—for instance, when a desirable man calls, it's wise to set a timer to go off a few minutes later, then recite a memorized exit line, such as "Sorry, gotta go. I have a million things to do." Here's my crazy idea: How about actually having a million things to do? How about actually filling your life with interesting activities? If you want to attract a partner, identify what you love to do, and do it—a lot. Involved, busy people really are more attractive, so if you want to get engaged to your soul mate, start by being engaged in activities that fascinate you—especially those that have nothing to do with dating and that make you forget to go love hunting.
Saturday 7 April 2012
The Power of Silence
It is often said that there is great power in the spoken word, but perhaps there is a far greater power in silence.
Silence has an energy to it like no other source. It has the power to get people to think and to act, it can help slow the mind down, and it is a powerful ally in the likes of counseling and life coaching.
“In silence, we can hear our soul speak”. So goes the saying. Getting in touch with our inner self is truly the way to attain joy and contentment.
But where is this ever eluding silence? Life in this concrete jungle where we live makes one wonder whether such a thing as silence exists. We live our lives in the midst of noise. There is noise everywhere—at home, on the streets, at the work place, at the theatre, shopping mall.
The list goes on and on. Today, it is becoming increasingly difficult to find a home where a television or music system is not blaring away.Then there is this constant ringing of mobile phones and intercom systems. Amidst all this man made noises, the melodious natural sounds of Mother Earth gets submerged and obliterated. We hardly get to hear the birds sing or the whistle of the winds among the trees.
Man is busy making his livelihood. So busy that you hear mechanical noises everywhere you go, but hardly get to hear the sound of people talking to each other. Such is the impact that modern life has dealt on mankind. All this can have a catastrophic effect on us.
We live in a constantly agitated, noisy state. It has reached a level that there is absolutely no silence in our lives. In fact we have become scared of silence; silence is more killing to us than noise.
That is the irony. What a shame then, that silence has become our enemy. But in reality, silence is one of our greatest friends and if practiced well can have a wonderful effect on us.
The noise within
It is not just the mechanical, man-made noises of the outside world that torments us. There is plenty of noise happening within us as well. The chattering inside us begins right from the time we awake. We begin thinking of the day ahead, get worried about a scheduled meeting, get irritated with the traffic on way to the office, regret our past actions, worry about the future—the list is endless.
Even our sleep is disturbed by this inner chattering in the form of dreams and nightmares.
These inner noises and thoughts deny us the pleasure of being in the present. Our minds are busy always thinking about something or the other, wandering here and there, so much so that even when we are entertaining ourselves, we are not really completely there. Our inner noise is as dangerous as the noise outside us—if not more
Getting to know our true self
A silent mind, freed from the constant onslaught of thoughts and thought processes, is vital for personal as well as spiritual development. Many religions profess that inner silence can bring us in contact with the divine or the ultimate reality.
Whether it is the silence of contemplative prayer, silent worship rituals or meditation, descriptions of silence and allowing the mind to become silent are implied as a feature of spiritual enlightenment, inner growth and a time to allow the divine to speak in the heart and mind.
The most serious consequence of both this inner chattering and the noise and activity of the modern world is that they separate us from our true selves.
Getting to know our true self can have a liberating effect on us. It can bring a sense of deep awareness and a sense of “being” rather than a sense of always trying to “become” this or that. Above all, we can experience a profound sense of inner peace and natural happiness. What we think of as happiness is usually materialistic joy and sense gratification.
But the kind of deep and rich happiness we experience when we are in touch with our true self, the consciousness within us is a natural, spiritual happiness, which does not depend on anything external, and does not evaporate as soon as the object or stimulation which produced it is removed. It is a happiness which comes from experiencing the divinity inside us.
Therefore to get in touch with our inner, true self, we have to gradually withdraw our attention from those things that cause these noises—both external and internal. Meditation does exactly this. First we need to sit in a quiet place with our eyes closed and remove all the external stimuli.
Then we need to silence the inner noise by watching our breathing pattern or by chanting a mantra. When we succeed in stopping the inner noise pure consciousness immerses us and we become our true selves. That is the true power of silence.
Friday 6 April 2012
Summer is all about colors
Before shopping I like to do something called " window shopping" !!
I'm very hesitant when it comes to fashion . I like to watch everything and then decide what to buy .. After all It's money we're talking about baby
No no no ! Pls don't misunderstand me . Im not a stingy person ; but I am very picky and I like to choose unique things
I'm very hesitant when it comes to fashion . I like to watch everything and then decide what to buy .. After all It's money we're talking about baby
No no no ! Pls don't misunderstand me . Im not a stingy person ; but I am very picky and I like to choose unique things
Wednesday 4 April 2012
Overcoming Aqua-phobia
Fear of water could be said to be one of the more natural fears, or phobias.
However, when this realistic wariness gets out of control, overwhelming anxiety around water can make enjoyment of vacations and sports very difficult indeed.
Now people often ask what causes a fear of water, but there is no single answer. Human beings can develop fears of anything at all - from buttons to balloons (we have seen them all), which is why curing powerful fears or phobias is actually relatively easy - they all use the same pattern
Re-educate your unconscious mind to relax around water
Hypnosis can gently and enjoyably teach your mind to be comfortable around and in water. Of course, you will maintain a healthy respect for water, but the old overwhelming fear will be gone.
However, when this realistic wariness gets out of control, overwhelming anxiety around water can make enjoyment of vacations and sports very difficult indeed.
Now people often ask what causes a fear of water, but there is no single answer. Human beings can develop fears of anything at all - from buttons to balloons (we have seen them all), which is why curing powerful fears or phobias is actually relatively easy - they all use the same pattern
Re-educate your unconscious mind to relax around water
The Escape to "Electronic Life"!
Welcome to my electronic life
Are you a fan of electronic devices? If so, then you must have an idea of how these modern devices affect our lives these days. Some people claim that electronics have bad effects and encourage humans to be dependent on technology. However, there are individuals who oppose that belief. Nowadays, devices such as laptops, desktop computers and mobile phones have provided millions of people from around the world the most effective mediums of communication. With computers, we can send personal and business messages in a matter of seconds. Meanwhile, getting in touch with friends and families has never been more convenient with the use of cell phones.
DVD players, music and video players, and gaming consoles are just some of the many technologies that provide entertainment to people. These modern equipment serve many functions. With these gadgets, students and professionals can escape the busy life in school and work. Aside from providing pleasure and amusement, electronic devices also help businesses and households protect and secure their offices and homes. In fact, international and big electronic companies make sure that they manufacture tools such as surveillance cameras, security sensors, and car alarms in different designs and with various features.
It is because of these electronics that our lives have become much better. Gadgets and other modern tools help us in many ways from providing entertainment and great communication tools for our safety and security. The good part about these electronic things is they are very handy, allowing us to make our tasks lighter and easier. Fashion is also being integrated in gadgets nowadays. Accordingly, people tend to enhance the appearance of their devices by putting colourful covers or casings on their laptops and mobile phones. Wholesale electronics are really some of the great things help people make their lives more pleasurable than ever before.
There are hundreds of inventions which have revolutionized human life. Electronic gadgets are prominent among these inventions. They play a vital role in our lives. The electronic gadgets which we use daily consist of lights, televisions, computers, fans, A/Cs, refrigerators, telephones, cell phones, etc. Life would have been very difficult without these inventions. Let me give you an example of cell phones to show the importance of electronic of gadgets in our lives. Cell phones have occupied a very important position in our lives. Think what would happen if cell phones or mobiles hadn’t been invented? There would be long queues of people outside the PCOs who would be waiting to call up. You can easily imagine the scene.
This was just a small example to show the importance of electronic gadgets. The same thing is true for all the other electronic gadgets. Hence we can say that electronic gadgets play a vital role in our lives and it is hard to survive without them.
Keep moving... Movement produces happiness hormones
Are you a fan of electronic devices? If so, then you must have an idea of how these modern devices affect our lives these days. Some people claim that electronics have bad effects and encourage humans to be dependent on technology. However, there are individuals who oppose that belief. Nowadays, devices such as laptops, desktop computers and mobile phones have provided millions of people from around the world the most effective mediums of communication. With computers, we can send personal and business messages in a matter of seconds. Meanwhile, getting in touch with friends and families has never been more convenient with the use of cell phones.
DVD players, music and video players, and gaming consoles are just some of the many technologies that provide entertainment to people. These modern equipment serve many functions. With these gadgets, students and professionals can escape the busy life in school and work. Aside from providing pleasure and amusement, electronic devices also help businesses and households protect and secure their offices and homes. In fact, international and big electronic companies make sure that they manufacture tools such as surveillance cameras, security sensors, and car alarms in different designs and with various features.
It is because of these electronics that our lives have become much better. Gadgets and other modern tools help us in many ways from providing entertainment and great communication tools for our safety and security. The good part about these electronic things is they are very handy, allowing us to make our tasks lighter and easier. Fashion is also being integrated in gadgets nowadays. Accordingly, people tend to enhance the appearance of their devices by putting colourful covers or casings on their laptops and mobile phones. Wholesale electronics are really some of the great things help people make their lives more pleasurable than ever before.
There are hundreds of inventions which have revolutionized human life. Electronic gadgets are prominent among these inventions. They play a vital role in our lives. The electronic gadgets which we use daily consist of lights, televisions, computers, fans, A/Cs, refrigerators, telephones, cell phones, etc. Life would have been very difficult without these inventions. Let me give you an example of cell phones to show the importance of electronic of gadgets in our lives. Cell phones have occupied a very important position in our lives. Think what would happen if cell phones or mobiles hadn’t been invented? There would be long queues of people outside the PCOs who would be waiting to call up. You can easily imagine the scene.
This was just a small example to show the importance of electronic gadgets. The same thing is true for all the other electronic gadgets. Hence we can say that electronic gadgets play a vital role in our lives and it is hard to survive without them.
Keep moving... Movement produces happiness hormones
Monday 2 April 2012
تمنّع قليلا لتكسب حب المرأة
اكتشفت دراسة جديدة ان تمنّع الرجل طريقة قد تكون ناجحة للوصول الى قلب المرأة. وقال فريق الباحثين الذين اجروا الدراسة ان المرأة تزداد انجذابا الى الرجل حين لا تكون واثقة من مدى إعجابه بها ومحبته لها.
وتوصل الباحثون الى هذه النتيجة بعدما استطلعوا آراء 47 طالبة في جامعة فرجينيا الاميركية بنذبة وهمية عن أربعة رجال. وقيل لكل طالبة ان الرجال الأربعة اطلعوا على نبذتها على فايسبوك مع فتيات أخريات تتراوح أعمارهن بين 15 و20 سنة في إطار تجربة موضوعها المواعيد والصداقات التي تعقد على الانترنت.
وزعت عينة الطالبات على ثلاث مجموعات وقيل لأفراد المجموعة الأولى ان الرجال الأربعة معجبون بهن إعجابا متوسطا والمجموعة الثانية ان اإعجابهم بهن فوق المتوسط وقيل لطالبات المجموعة الثالثة ان الرجال الأربعة كانوا إما في غاية الاعجاب بهن أو بعكسه. وحين طُلب من الفتيات ان يصفن مدى إعجابهن بالرجال الأربعة أبدت فتيات المجموعة الثالثة أعلى درجات الاعجاب بهم.
وكان الرجال الأربعة الغامضون أكثر شعبية من الرجال الذين عبروا عن مشاعرهم بصراحة وأبدوا رغبتهم في إقامة علاقة بلا مواربة. وجاء بالمرتبة الأخيرة في كسب عواطف الفتيات أولئك الرجال الذين منحوا الفتيات درجات تضعهن في وسط الطريق.
وقال أصحاب الدراسة من جامعتي فرجينيا وهارفرد ان الكثير من الكتب الرائجة تنصح بعدم البوح بكل ما يشعر به المرء إزاء الطرف الآخر وأن يبدو صعب الارضاء ، حريص على الانتقاء بعناية شديدة. وقد تكون هذه النصيحة في محلها. فان إبقاء الآخرين في الظلام عن عواطفنا تجاههم سيزيد تفكيرهم فينا ويستثير فضولهم واهتمامهم بنا.
وبذلك توصل العلماء الى ما كانت جين اوستن تعرفه وعبرت عنه على لسان بطلتها ماريان داشود حين تساءلت عن شخصية جون ويلوغبي الغامضة: "لو تمكنتُ من معرفة ما في قلبه لهان كل شيء".
Living a Life of Love
"The law of Love is based on abundance; we are completely filled with Love all the time, and our supply is always full and running over. When we give our Love unconditionally to others with no expectations of return, the Love within us extends, expands, and joins. So by giving our Love away we increase the Love within us and everyone gains." -- Gerald G. Jampolsky
“I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.”-- Oprah Winfrey
“Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God.”--Mary Manin Morrissey
“Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself. “—Leo Buscagli
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.”--Deepak Chopra
”There is no shame in finding someone else to be attractive, or good company. Even if they don't like you, there is still no shame. If you happen to be fond of someone, and they're not fond of you, it's OK.. You don't have to wait and see if they'll love you back. You can announce it.. Joy in life comes from expressing ourselves, in taking risks and jumping in. Everyone is not going to like you. But you can like who you like.” – Andrew Matthews
"You are the love you seek. You are the companionship you desire. You are your own completion, your own wholeness. You are your best friend, your confidant. 'You are,' as poetess Audre Lourde wrote, 'the one that you are looking for.' You are the only one who can do what you are looking for someone else to do." -- Iyanla Vanzant
"Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you." -- Eckhart Tolle
“I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.”-- Oprah Winfrey
“Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God.”--Mary Manin Morrissey
“Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself. “—Leo Buscagli
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.”--Deepak Chopra
”There is no shame in finding someone else to be attractive, or good company. Even if they don't like you, there is still no shame. If you happen to be fond of someone, and they're not fond of you, it's OK.. You don't have to wait and see if they'll love you back. You can announce it.. Joy in life comes from expressing ourselves, in taking risks and jumping in. Everyone is not going to like you. But you can like who you like.” – Andrew Matthews
"You are the love you seek. You are the companionship you desire. You are your own completion, your own wholeness. You are your best friend, your confidant. 'You are,' as poetess Audre Lourde wrote, 'the one that you are looking for.' You are the only one who can do what you are looking for someone else to do." -- Iyanla Vanzant
"Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you." -- Eckhart Tolle
Heal the wounds
You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them." —Iyanla Vanzant
“When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life.”
“The road of life is strewn with the bodies of promising people. People who show promise, yet lack the confidence to act. People who make promises they are unable to keep. People who promise to do tomorrow what they could do today. Promising young stars, athletes, entrepreneurs who wait for promises to come true. Promise without a goal and a plan is like a barren cow. You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can't. Turn your promise into a plan. Make no promise for tomorrow if you are able to keep it today. And if someone calls you promising, know that you are not doing enough today.”
“When you need to be loved, you take love wherever you can find it. When you are desperate to be loved, feel love, know love, you seek out what you think love should look like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, kill, and steal to keep it. But learning about real love comes from within. It cannot be given. It cannot be taken away. It grows from your ability to re-create within yourself, the essence of loving experiences you have had in your life.”
“The road of life is strewn with the bodies of promising people. People who show promise, yet lack the confidence to act. People who make promises they are unable to keep. People who promise to do tomorrow what they could do today. Promising young stars, athletes, entrepreneurs who wait for promises to come true. Promise without a goal and a plan is like a barren cow. You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can't. Turn your promise into a plan. Make no promise for tomorrow if you are able to keep it today. And if someone calls you promising, know that you are not doing enough today.”
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